What to Do and Not to Do in the US: From a Veteran of Both Sides of the Pond

Ah, the joys of ping-ponging between two continents! After spending 20 years in the US and 20 in Europe, I’ve had my fair share of “wait, you do what here?” moments. Here are some key differences that might just save your life—or at least your sanity.

1. Hands on the Steering Wheel when Stopped by Police!
This is a big one, probably the biggest. If you’re driving in the US and get pulled over, do not dig through your purse for your ID like you would in Europe. You want to stay alive, right? Police in the US don’t mess around when it comes to sudden movements. A quick reach into your bag can turn into a real-life action movie, minus the Hollywood ending. So, hands on the wheel, smile politely, and wait for instructions like your life depends on it—because it just might!

2. Turning Right on Red: America’s Best Traffic Hack
Oh, how I miss turning right on red when I’m back in Europe. Sitting there, watching the empty street stretch out in front of you, waiting for the green light like a fool. In the US, you can just go! (Unless there’s a sign that says you can’t, which… just check for that, okay?) It’s efficient, it makes sense, and I will die on this hill. Europe, please take notes!

3. Tax Surprise! That Price Tag Is a Lie.
I remember my first time in New York, carefully counting my shiny new dollars and cents like a responsible human being, ready to buy a sandwich and some postcards. I get to the register and—wait, what?! That price tag you saw? It’s just the pre-show. The real number hits you at the register like a plot twist. In Europe, what you see is what you pay. But in the US? They like to keep you guessing. Taxes vary by state, so it’s always a bit of a game. My advice? Always keep a few extra bucks handy—and maybe a calculator.

4. Tipping: When 15% Isn’t Enough Anymore
Let me take you back to a simpler time, when tipping was a gentle 10-15%, based on actual service. Fast forward to now, and it’s like a bidding war for your wallet. 18%? That’s cute. How about 25%? What’s next, handing over your firstborn for a latte? I’m looking at you, California! Meanwhile, in Europe, you just round up to the nearest euro or leave a couple of coins. Maybe toss in another one if I’m feeling extra generous. It’s relaxed, it’s sensible, and it doesn’t feel like you’re negotiating a hostage release.

5. They Bag Your Groceries for You
Yes, either the cashier or a bagger will put your groceries into bags for you! But listen to this: My sister came to visit me in the US, and we went grocery shopping. As we’re checking out, a bagger from another aisle comes over to help, and my sister, bless her heart, starts wrestling the poor guy for our groceries. “These are OURS!” she says with her broken English, acting like he’s robbing us in broad daylight. They’re both gripping the same can of beans like it’s the last one on Earth—until I explain to her what’s happening. Flash forward to me in a Czech grocery store. I’m standing there like an idiot while my items pile up at the end of the conveyor belt. Wait… I have to bag my own stuff? You should’ve seen the cashier’s face. 🤦‍♀️

So there you have it—some survival tips from someone who’s made a lot of awkward mistakes so you don’t have to! Enjoy your travels, and may you always know when to bag your own groceries!